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Some Very Personal Piercings

By S.

It's like this, but down there. From youngisthantimes.wordpress.com.

Genital piercings generally evoke one of three reactions—a whimper and look of horror at the thought of metal in personal parts, a series of questions, or a smile followed by, “That’s hot, can I see?”

A little bit of well-placed metal can look dangerously sexy and can cause anything from the lightest brush of lace across your personals to deep, hard, and fast thrusting to feel new, different, and extremely pleasurable.

So, for anyone wondering, where? how? why? and for some of you considering adding a little more excitement to your body and your love life, here are the basics on the most personal of piercings.

Some types of genital piercings are more common than others because of the wide range of body shapes and contours.  No one’s personals are structured exactly the same, so every piercing is slightly different. When working with something this intimate, people need to work with their own form to come up with an arrangement that flatters their body and causes them pleasure. That said, here are some of the more common places to pierce, and what they are known for.

Piercings for the Pussy (for female-bodied people)

The Clitoral Hood- is the most common female genital piercing and reported to be one of the most pleasurable. Because the overwhelming majority of women are not physically suited for an actual clitoral piercing and don’t want to risk damaging such precious nerves, hood piercings are a safe and beautiful way to focus on what may be the best nerves in her body.

Hood piercings are generally vertical, with the ball of a bar bell resting on the clit as the metal goes through that thin and delicate piece of skin covering just above. For some women, this extra bit of stimulation in such a sensitive spot can bring them almost to climax from walking, or sliding on that black lace thong before going out for the night, but for many women, the placement just helps to add a little extra pleasure when playing.

A lover of mine adored the feeling of a vibrator placed lightly on the ball of the piercing so she could feel the vibrations running through the metal. She also joked, “No man has ever not been able to find my clit since,” as the beautiful jeweled tip highlighted where she wanted a tongue most.

Hood piercings can be horizontal, or rings instead of barbells, depending on what the wearer wants in looks and sensations, and what her anatomy allows. Not all women have large enough or separated enough hoods for this to be an enjoyable or lasting piercing.

The Triangle- adds extra stimulation to the clit, but unlike the hood, rests behind the clitoral nerve bundle. Most women are not structured to have a triangle, as it needs a clit that can be pulled away from the body for a piercer to pierce behind. This is also a piercing that needs to be done by a true professional, because it goes between lots of incredibly important nerves. But, for those suited for the triangle, it allows for full circle stimulation.

The Christina- is a symmetrical surface piercing where the outer labia meets below the pubic mound. This is a piercing generally done for looks, not pleasure, because without longer dangling jewelry, it doesn’t stimulate any high nerve areas. It can look tantalizingly sexy, and there is the satisfyingly naughty feeling of having something placed in your personals.

The Fourchette- is a piercing placed at the lower labia at the base of the vaginal opening (the skin on the ass side of the vagina opening, or female guiche). Depending on how deeply this piercing is placed, there may be one ball of the bar bell resting just inside of the vagina, with one ball outside and visible when she bends over and spreads her legs (a position we should all look our best in). Because this is an area greatly different from vulva to vulva, not all ladies are suited for this piercing, and it falls in different places for those who are.  When everything works out well, though, the fourchette can add that extra bit of stimulation during the first thrust of penetration, and with large enough jewelry can hit a male partner’s tip with some new sensations.

Other- there are countless other piercings and piercing combinations individual to each ladies’ anatomy, including many inner and outer labia piercings. As a general rule, if you can pull away skin and pinch it, you can pierce it, but because of the variability of genital piercings, you should defiantly work with a professional to find something that suits you.

Piercings about the penis (for male bodied people)

The Prince Albert- is the most common male genital piercing, pleasuring the penis from new and exciting angles. The PA runs through the urethra and out through the frenulum (through the hole in the top and out just under the head, or just inside the juncture of the foreskin for uncircumcised men). This piercing stimulates the inside of the urethra, a place with a high concentration of nerves that can be extremely pleasurable. While the PA looks extremely painful, the actual hole of the piercing is going through a very thin amount of skin, and a skilled piercer will avoid the sensitive nerve bundle under the ridge of the penis.

The Ampallang and The Apradravya- are more difficult, but still pleasurable head piercings. The hole is made respectively horizontally or vertically through the head of the penis, requiring a long bar bell (often well over an inch). While the recovery time is longer and there is often more pain associated with these piercings, they can still be highly pleasurable for everyone enjoying them. They also are pretty high on the “fuckin’ bad ass” scale.

Foreskin Piercing- if you have one, you can pierce it. This is a fairly easy piercing, known to cause hardly any pain and to heal quickly. Virtually any part of the foreskin can be pierced, although there is a risk of the piercing ripping. This piercing can also be highly pleasurable, depending on placement, as the metal rubs against such crucial nerves.

Other- espically with the male anatomy, piercings are like porn—if you can think of it, somebody has done it, and it’s on the Internet. Practically any part of the male anatomy can be pierced. From the less painful scrotal skin piercings, to the in depth through-scrotum piercings, to surface piercings lying above the juncture of the shaft and the pubic bone, or the guiche behind the scrotum and before the anus, all have their own pains and pleasures.

Sex With Piercings (is pretty amazing)

One of the biggest myths about personal piercings, is that you have to wait for months after getting one done before you can try it out with a friend. In reality, most piercers will recommend easing into things based on comfort. Some piercings take as long as 6 months to fully heal, and it would be ridiculous to expect abstinence for that long. Most people I know were back in that latex saddle within the week, just proceeding with caution and protection to keep everything clean and uninfected.

After the first few weeks of healing is up, piercings can make sex better than ever before. Like all things, you should check in with your lover and make sure that they are comfortable, but a little bit of metal in no way means that you can’t fuck as rough as you want. If the ball is pressing deep in to her clit, she may be enjoying it, not writhing in pain, and it is that extra tension and pull of a deep thrust that uses a P.A. to its fullest. Also, with lube, and smooth, rounded jewelry, piercings are no excuse not to wear condoms—Play safe, kids.

To Pierce at Oberlin—unfortunately, there are no professional and specialized genital pierciers within walking distance from your dorm. However, Nate and Tyson at Body Anthology in Amherst, are some of the cleanest and most professional genital piercers in Ohio. With extensive experience in genital and unusual piercings, they err on the cautious side and will make sure that you are safe, and happy, helping you with one of the best decisions you can make for what you keep in your pants.

Xoxox

Funkin Free Par-tee

By Gossip Girl

Photo by Sybil Levine

9:22pm: Gunther and Scrappy Doo have been convinced to turn off the Greek marathon and start getting wasted.

If you’ve never had a shower beer, you have never lived.  Try it, kids.


10:44 pm: Scrappy Doo decided to drink strong mixed drinks while playing the James Bond Drinking Game.  El Mistako.

James Bond Drinking game did us all in.  Just pick ANY Bond film and drink when he makes a pun, when he shoots, gets shot at, or anything explodes, and any time he is outrageously misogynistic.  You will get Gunther levels of drunk in no time.


11:23pm: Starting the night off right. Headed over to Sco. Gunther has had a Four Loco and several other beers, so clearly it’s time for fat hot jams.


11:38pm: There’s a line to get in! Impressive.

If you want to have a party, and you also want to promote something, take a lesson from Dave Clark and Erica Lee.  There was a crowd at the ‘Sco on a Saturday for the first time in a very long time.


11:47pm: Free beer is good idea number one. Nothing is more Oberlin than Pabst in my mouth, my belly, and on my shirt.

A short list of other good ideas would include getting Baba Fats and the Funkin Donuts onboard to entertain and also to promote the event with free entry to people who commented on the website.  Those people brought their friends who had to pay, and Fearless and Loathing probably raised a fair amount of money as a result.  Are you taking notes?  You should be.


12:11am: This party is great, but the city is alive tonight.  On to fraternize with Jocks!

Union street was glowing.  People were walking around and it was nice out.  Is anybody else excited for this spring when there will be crowds of people out and about?  I know I am.


12:55am: Absolutely impressed with the swim party. They are exclusive, so they never overfill a room. They are not stingy with the brews, and there is always dancing.  There is also usually some skin showing.


12:56am: The party across the way from that one was also awesome. Oberlin is alive tonight.

If there are several parties in the same Union Street house, you should always pop between them.  I’ve never managed it, but taking an entire party across the hall to another party could be fun.  Anybody wanna try?

If you want me to know about your party so I can come judge you, feel free to email me at rockandroll@fearlessandloathing.com

I Touch Myself

By S.

My dearest Fearless and Loathing readers, Happy Valentine’s Day.

And this Valentine’s day, like every day, you deserve to have an orgasm or four. So, I highly advise that whether you are alone or with a very special date, that you spend a little bit of time tonight touching yourself.

Now, I have had mind-blowing lovers and beyond incredible toys, but there is something to be said for the classic simplicity of your own hand. For many of us, our own hands were our first partners, and therefore, they know us the best. Even if you have only recently taken your relationship with your fingertips to that next level, they have been there for you to gently massage your shoulders or brush against your lips for years now.

You often forget how good it can feel to satisfy yourself. With the hurries of life at Oberlin, or due to a reliable partner or toy, it’s easy to forget how nice it feels just to slide your own fingers slowly under the tight brim of your jeans while quickly unbuttoning them with your left hand.

There is nothing wrong with touching yourself, slowly, passionately, and then franticly stroking. If you are alone tonight, go ahead and lie naked in bed moaning out to the point that your neighbors must be jealous. And if you happen to know someone lucky enough that you would let watch, treat your lover to one of the most arousing and intimate sights there is.  There is little as hot as someone asking, “Can I play?” and then sliding their hand under yours to show you how it’s done right.  You can invite your lover to get as close as they can to cumming without actually reaching the final point, and then offer to help them with the final kiss, suck, or lick to finish a perfect fantasy.

So please, don’t hesitate to have a nice evening with your oldest lover. Give yourself a manicure, use some lotion, maybe even put on a ring, and treat yourself and your hand to a very happy and beautifully romantic Valentine’s Day.

xoxoxoxo

How to Shop Sexy around Oberlin

By S.

Whether you have a full arsenal of anal beads in your closet, or you’re looking for your first vibrator, the friendly neighborhood sex shop makes for an excellent and enlightening Friday afternoon or an easy Valentine’s Day gift before the weekend.

While you can find nearly anything on the Internet and the hardware store can take you a long way, there’s a huge benefit to actually stepping into a sex shop. There are a variety of playthings you may not have considered before laying eyes on them, and there’s the added benefit of people behind a counter happy to suggest and explain more ways to accessories your fun. Most importantly, you can actually see the toy you are about to buy, size things up, and feel testers. Local sex shops are much cheaper than the shipping-included online version.

So, here are my top favorites within driving distance from Oberlin, Ohio.

1 . Ambiance

Caters to those looking for a discreet and upscale experience with a focus on ladies and couples. If the idea of going to a sex shop for the first time seems scary, intimidating, overwhelming or embarrassing (and we all start somewhere), Ambiance is the place to go. With a wide selection of lingerie, seasonal sexy costumes and displays of sex toys, lubricants, gifts and fun accessories like basic bondage gear, Ambiance is easily the most tasteful adult store around. Their “certified romantic consultants” have always been extremely helpful in the most tactful and discreet way possible.  The downside is that Ambiance is a little more expensive. If you are looking for exclusively trustworthy products and a clean higher end environment, they are worth the investment. When my mom came into town with questions, we went to Ambiance, for a non-awkward shopping trip.
Between I-480 and Lorain Road
4745 Great Northern Blvd., North Olmsted

440.779.4100

2.Leather and Lace (our closest and cheapest)

Walking through the reinforced bulletproof door of Leather and Lace is not for the timid first-time buyer. With its seedy “over 18” sign and middle of nowhere location, it fulfills all stereotypes of the janky sex shop catering to a trench coat-wearing crowd. That said, Leather and Lace is also one of the cheapest establishments around. With the occasional find like the five-dollar leather studded bra or the sequined American Flag pasties, they’ve got you covered. L&L carries a small selection of toys, novelties, lingerie, and a decent collection of DVDs. While it’s by no means my go-to boutique, their service is friendly and helpful, making this a fun stop for that sketch feel on your way home from Taco Bell.

46319 Telegraph Rd, South Amherst

(Take 58 north to 113 and turn left)

440.986.5760

3. Adult Mart

I have a deep-seated love for Adult Mart. With a wide array of sex toys, sparkling platform stripper shoes up to size w10, and an ample and up-to-date DVD selection, AM offers everything you hope for in a sex shop. This would be my personal recommendation for anyone looking for a new toy or first time set of anal beads. They have the best toy, lube, and pornography selection around, without being overwhelming. AM also carries accessories from gentle massage candles to leather whips.  The AM in Amherst is closer to Oberlin and slightly more upscale than the Brook Park store, and Amherst’s AM also has a better selection of lingerie. AM and Rocky’s (also owned by AM) in Brook Park offer the better video selection, and the Brook Park AM has the best discount porn bin.

Bonus: If you are already by the airport, Brook Park’s AM is across the street from Cap’n Taco, “the top gun of Mexican food,” and next door to one of Cleveland’s few 18 and over strip clubs. Can you think of a better skeezy date night?

49150 Cooper Foster Park Rd
Amherst, OH 44001
440.984.2950

(Take 58 north past T-Bell, turn left, and drive for one metric forever through woods and Ohio-type what-nots)

16700 Brookpark Road
Cleveland, OH 44135
216.267.9019

(Take the airport exit for Brook Park Rd., pass the airport, go under the highway, and AM is on your left)

4. Cirilla’s

In what looks like a former fast food drive through, Cirilla’s is a personal favorite. They have the best selection of sexy things to wear, from lingerie to PVC to pasties. Cirilla’s also carries the widest selection of fetish products and an ample array of DVDs, toys, and random novelties. Cirilla’s is generally less expensive than other stores. My girlfriend and I decided that we would give each other Cirilla’s gift cards for Christmas and ended up going half and half on a shining new striper pole on an excellent recommendation from a very knowledgeable Cirilla’s employee.

661 Midway Blvd.
Elyria, OH 44035
440 324-1027

WARNING—Just because a toy or product is at a reputable-looking store does not necessarily mean that it is safe. Know what you’re buying, and know that lower quality plastics can leach toxins and all of that scary stuff.  Also, having learned through one of the more painful experiences in my life, that little bottle on the sale shelf is not necessarily the key to fun natural enhancement, but instead can make putting icy hot on your most personal bits seem like a good idea.

XOXOX

Threesomes and Groupsomes

By S.

Sometimes you wish that you had an extra hand, or mouth during sex. Maybe bringing more than one friend to bed (or couch, floor, shower, etc.) lets you play with different gender dynamics, or maybe it satisfies your voyeurism or exhibitionism. Maybe you want to bring some more friends into your fun and play with some new types of relationships, or maybe you just want to try something new and would like a little extra help and a little more party in something that is good with two, but could be better with three, four, or more.

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A Final Touch of Kink: S is for Sadomasochism

By S.

Pain and Pleasure can a blurred spectrum rather than stark opposites. Some of the most intensely pleasurable experiences almost painful—stepping into a steaming hot shower with your nose still numb from the cold, a deep massage, or the last instant before you give into and are overwhelmed by an orgasm. In the world of BDSM, it’s ok to play with the boundaries of painful pleasure and pleasurable pain and to show that you care for someone by hurting them in just the right ways.

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