Of Disorientations Past

By Sybil Levine

My first week at Oberlin was a whirlwind of excitement and nerves. Here I was – at college, free from my family for the first time, eager to make new friends and to start experimenting. All week long, my fellow first-years and I grew oriented to the school – this building is that, here’s where you find this, cool factoids here and there. Orientation is a process all first-year students expect to go through. At the end of it all, however – after the rooms are organized, the snacks bought and stored, and parentals on the road home again – the less expected disorientation process begins.

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Fantasy and Masturbation

By Sybil Levine

Fantasizing and masturbation are key parts of our personal lives whether we discuss them openly or not. Fantasy can be done on its own, as can masturbation, but there is no doubt the two go together well. The SIC (Sexual Information Center) hosted a workshop this week specifically geared towards discussing (and encouraging) fantasy and masturbation.

The talk began by reading aloud multiple fantasies that had been submitted by the audience, demonstrating the wide variety of sexual fantasies that can exist. Not every person is going to have the same fantasy, and it is important to recognize and respect those differences. Fantasizing is imagining anything that gets you hot. No fantasy is the “right” fantasy; they can be dangerous, innocent, familiar or new. Fantasies are safe and do not have to reflect things you do in real life. It is perfectly acceptable to imagine engaging in behavior you wouldn’t regularly do, since the thought is safely tucked away in your head.

Masturbation can be one of the safest sexual acts since there is no chance of contracting an STI. Masturbation is the act of pleasuring oneself. The good news about masturbation is everyone can do it. Here’s a fun fact: most children under the age of five have masturbated (now take a moment to think back). Masturbation feels good, it’s relaxing, and it can help you get to know yourself. Masturbation can also be something you do to spoil yourself. As one SIC staffer put it, “Just because you’re not with a partner doesn’t mean you can’t be sexy or treat yourself well.”

For those who came to the workshop looking for masturbation techniques, many were suggested. Here are some interesting ones I picked out that the Fearless and Loathing readers may be able to add to their collections:

  • During solo sex, it can be fun to practice edging.  Edging is bringing yourself to the point just before climax, before pausing and then reengaging, which will force yourself to last longer. This can also be good practice for men and women who want to postpone climaxing in bed.
  • If men are looking to stimulate the prostate, a little bit of anal play will do the trick. Stimulation of the prostate can even lead to non-ejaculatory orgasm in some men.
  • An easy slight-of-hand trick is applying pressure to the sensitive perineum, the skin between the testes and anus. This can be done by oneself or a partner who is spicing up a hand job.
  • For women, exercising the Kegel muscles can help increase pleasure for yourself and your partner. Ben wa balls, a small pair of weighted balls, can be inserted into the vagina and held there for exercise.

How to Please

By Sybil Levine

On Saturday, I attended three of the most popular workshops hosted by the Sexual Information Center (SIC) during Safer Sex Week: How to Please a Penis, How to Please a Vulva, and How to please an Anus.

Each workshop covers basic anatomy of genitalia as well as tips on how to increase pleasure in those areas. The practices of safe sex, sex positivity, and recommendations for first timers were not forgotten, all of which the workshops addressed. The SIC staffers provided its audience with useful information and advice on how to please your partner and yourself. Here, I want to share with the readers of Fearless and Loathing some of what I took away from these workshops:

  • When handling a penis, don’t ignore the balls… but please don’t hurt them. And when it comes to giving them attention during oral play, don’t be afraid to go there. Not every mouth-to-testes interaction has to look like what the porn industry portrays.
  • Hand jobs aren’t just for 15-year-olds.
  • Pre-cum is the result of the penis cleaning itself out. Similar to regular female vaginal discharge, pre-cum “cleans out the pipes.” Pre-cum can contain sperm and, although the chances are small, it is possible for one to get pregnant from it.
  • During arousal, the vagina actually elongates itself in order to accommodate for potential penetration.
  • One of the coolest things I learned in these workshops was that the part of the clitoris that is visible is only the beginning of a five inch long stretch of nerves. The best thing about this body part is that its sole purpose is pleasure.
  • If you and your partner are aiming to climax together, try breathing in rhythm. Synchronizing your breathing with your partner has been shown to make orgasming together easier to attain.
  • The nicest part about anal play is everyone’s got an anus, so anyone can enjoy it!
  • For men, the prostate is stimulated during anal sex. It has been shown that stimulation of the prostate can help prevent prostate cancer.

Security Report: Nov. 4th through 10th

Thursday, November 4th

12:38 p.m. A student reported the theft of her bicycle which was locked to itself outside of Mudd Library.  The bike is a blue, men’s Bluestone 200, 10 speed, valued at $200.00.

3:12 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Allencroft.  Smoke from a pot of burnt ginger activated the alarm.  The alarm was reset with no further problems.

Friday, November 5th

8:56 a.m. Staff from CIT reported the theft of several computers, value being a total of approximately $7576.50.  The theft is under investigation by Safety & Security and the Oberlin Police Department.

10:10 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Dascomb dining hall.  The cause was smoke from a burnt bagel.  The alarm was silenced and reset.

1:39 p.m. A student reported the theft of her unsecured bicycle from the southeast side of Burton Hall.  The bike is a GT Palomar, women’s, purple in color, valued at $100.00.

12:37 p.m. A resident of South Hall reported the theft of her laptop computer from her locked room.  The laptop is a PC Notebook, white in color and valued at $350.00.  The theft is under investigation.

10:47 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Talcott.  All hallway and room detectors were checked, but an activated detector was not located and there was no smoke or fire seen.  The alarm was reset without complication.

11:29 p.m. A student reported accidentally breaking the glass in the fire extinguisher cabinet door on the second floor of Dascomb.  A work order was filed for repair.

Saturday, November 6th

2:36 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm on the second floor of Langston Hall.  The cause of the activated smoke detector was burnt popcorn.  The alarm was reset.

12:33 p.m. Custodial staff reported vandalism to a first floor bathroom in East Hall.  Unknown person(s) kicked the door off a stall.  A work order was filed for repair of the door.

Sunday, November 7th

1:02 a.m. Officers responded to a party on West College Street that was over the authorized attendance.  The party was shut down for the night.

1:35 a.m. A resident of Barrows Hall reported a marijuana odor on the third floor.  The room in question was located by officers and occupants denied smoking in the room.  All students were advised of the College policies on smoking in buildings/rooms, and smoking marijuana.

1:05 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Police Department responded to an emergency request to assist an intoxicated student in the area of King.  The unconscious student was transported by ambulance to Mercy Allen Medical Center.

1:44 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to an activated pull station on the first floor of Dascomb Hall.  The building was checked and no need for the activation could be located.  The alarm was reset.

10:02 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at East Hall, mechanical room.  The cause of the alarm was from excessive heat in the room.  A window was opened and an electrician was contacted for repair.

3:24 p.m. A student reported vandalism to her vehicle while parked in the Union Street lot.  The passenger side rear door was kicked leaving a dent, scuff mark and visible shoe print.  Two other vehicles in the lot were discovered to have similar damage.  Oberlin Police Department also responded for a report.  Owners of vehicles were notified.

7:44 p.m. A student reported the theft of his gray Nike string bag from an unlocked locker in Philips Gym.  The bag contained gym clothes, a pair of glasses and a black LG cell phone.  A check of the area was made for the items with negative results.  The cell phone service was cancelled.

Monday, November 8th

2:46 p.m. Staff reported the cord to the fire suppression system in the kitchen of Tank Hall was pulled and hanging approximately 8 inches.  The fire alarm company was contacted for repair.

11:54 a.m. A student reported the theft of her locked bicycle from the bike rack on the north side of Dascomb Hall.  The bicycle is a red Murray Westport, wide handlebars and black seat, valued at $100.00.

Tuesday, November 9th


10:16 a.m. Staff from Philips Gym reported the theft of a laptop computer from a secured office.  The laptop is a MacBook Pro, 15” screen, silver in color, valued at approximately $1700.00.  The theft is under investigation by the Safety & Security Office and Oberlin Police Department.

2:45 p.m. Staff from Wilder Hall reported the theft of a desktop computer.  The computer is a iMac Intel, 20” screen and is valued at approximately $1150.00.  The theft is under investigation by the Safety & Security Officer and Oberlin Police Department.

5:28 p.m. Officers responded to a requested for assistance from an ill student from Dascomb Hall.  The student was transported to the hospital for treatment.

11:37 p.m. Student staff reported finding a small plastic bag containing what appeared to be marijuana near the exterior entrance of Langston Hall.  The baggie was turned over to the Oberlin Police Department.

Security Report: Oct. 28th through Nov. 3rd

Thursday, October 28th

2:22 a.m. Officers responded to the report of a suspicious male sitting on the steps on the northwest side of Wilder Hall.  Oberlin Police Department also responded.  The male was identified and advised he was waiting for daylight so he could ride his bike back to Spencer.

7:19 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Langston Hall, second floor.  Burnt roasted cashews created smoke and activated the alarm.  The alarm was reset with no further problems.

Friday, October 29th

11:40 a.m. Philips Gym staff reported two unauthorized male subjects in the building.  The subjects were located and identified.  One of the individuals was found to be in possession of a fictitious Oberlin College staff ID.  Both individuals were escorted from the building.  Further investigation to follow.

6:30 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Keep, third floor.  The smoke from burning incense was the cause of the alarm.  Incense and holder were confiscated.  The alarm was reset.

8:57 p.m. A student reported being assaulted by a group of approximately 8 – 12 juveniles at the northwest corner of Stevenson Hall.  The group then left campus heading east.  Oberlin Police Department also responded.  A “Special Alert” was issued by the Safety and Security Office.

Saturday, October 30th

5:20 p.m. A student reported the theft of her locked bicycle from the bike rack on the north side of Harvey.  The bike is a black, men’s, Huffy mountain bike, valued at approximately $40.00.

8:06 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Dascomb Hall, second floor.  The cause was smoke/steam from cooking bacon.  The alarm was silenced and reset.

Sunday, October 31st

1:28 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Langston Hall, first floor, pull station.  The entire building was searched and found to be ok.  The pull station was reset.

2:00 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm, pull station, on the first floor of Noah.  The building was checked and found to be ok.  The alarm was reset.

7:36 a.m. Officers responded to the first floor of Bibbins to assist with a student, ill from alcohol consumption.  The student was coherent and able to answer all questions.  He was transported to Langston Hall and walked to his room with no problems.

8:25 a.m. Officers responded to a “water flow” alarm at King, third floor.  Water was observed flowing from the ceiling in a third floor room.  A plumber responded and was able to stop the leak; custodial staff responded for clean up.

12:30 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm on the second floor of Barrows Hall.  The building was checked and found to be ok.  The alarm was reset.

12:55 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm on the first floor of Noah.  Smoke was observed near the kitchenette.  Chicken was found cooking in the oven and drippings created smoke, activating the alarm.  The area was cleared of smoke and the alarm reset.

9:52 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Barrows Hall.  A fire extinguisher was discharged in several areas for no apparent reason.  Students were moved to the Science Center until clean up was completed and smoke detectors were replaced.

Monday, November 1st

1:24 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Barrows Hall, second floor. A strong odor of burnt marijuana was detected on the second floor and the room detector was activated.  The alarm was silenced and reset.  Occupants of the room denied smoking in the room.

9:27 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Keep, third floor.  All rooms, including the attic, were checked and no cause for the alarm could be found.  The alarm was reset with no further problems.

Tuesday, November 2nd

9:37 p.m. Officers responded to the report of a suspicious male on the south side of Zechiel.  A second call reported the individual entered Zechiel, carrying a bottle of alcohol.  Officers located the male on the south side of Zechiel and identification was made.  Oberlin Police also responded and the non-student was taken into custody and charged with Trespass.

11:46 p.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm on the second floor of Barrows Hall.  A student advised he was jumping on the bed and accidentally hit the detector.  Repairs were made to the detector and the alarm was reset.

Wednesday, November 3rd

7:00 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm, room smoke detector, on the second floor of Barnard.  The cause of the alarm was steam from an electric teapot.  The alarm was reset with no further problems.

The Top 5 Reasons to Give Head in the Shower

By S.

While generally think of my self as more on the Fearless side of Fearless and Loathing, shower sex terrifies me. I’m great with heights and spiders, am generally begging to be tied up in chains (see my earlier articles) and love a good midnight drive through East Cleveland, but irrational as it may be, I always have a lurking fear that mid shower sex I am going to slip, fall and crack my head open on the hard tile floor.

This isn’t the sort of “Oh, maybe your roommate will catch us on her bed” fear that makes sex hot.  This is the irrational paranoia of “oh, maybe the EMTs will find pieces of my brain stuck in that thing meant to catch hair over the drain” kind of turnoff. Sadly though, having christened my boy’s bedroom floor, kitchen table and sink, couch, desk, stairs, doorway and coat closet, I am running out of excuses to avoid the obvious double-headed steamy splendors of the shower.

So, I ask you, dearest readers, to please comment with stories and suggestions of hope and encouragement on how to make shower sex work. Please give me tips, positions, and advice, and I will try them and let you know how it goes.

In exchange, I will give you what I know in regards to the warm and wet: The Top 5 Reasons you should give head in the shower.

1.     So fresh and so clean-clean!

No matter what we would like to believe, nobody smells like spring flowers and fresh linens down there 24/7. At Oberlin especially, you may sometimes be looking for the perfect excuse to give your lover a quick rinse before demonstrating how you can deep throat to the point of touching your nose to his balls (and children, this can be done at home). So grab some soap and sensually make sure that every last curve is nice and clean before getting dirty.

2.     Keeps the rest of you from getting chilly

In case you haven’t noticed yet, Northern Ohio can be a fucking tundra (literally).  While this isn’t so much of a problem when you’re full force body-on-body under the covers, sometimes the top half can get a little chilly if someone’s solely servicing the bottoms. Some hot steamy shower head is the obvious answer.  The combination of hot water running down your back and a warm tongue on your privates beats fantasizing about flannel sleepwear any day.

3.     Positions and angles for all

We have all heard that a handheld showerhead can be a lady’s best friend. Why not use your steamy surroundings to the best of everyone’s advantage?  Press something sensitive up against the spigot and allow water pressure to work with you. Plus, the curves and edges of the bathtub may inspire some of your best positions yet.

4.     Don’t fear the anal action

Not only can you both rest assured that things are squeaky clean, the warm water and steam of a shower can really help relax all of your muscles, and relaxation is key to anal fun. This makes the shower an ideal place for some finger and rim-job fun to be thrown into your classic oral routine.

5.     Easy clean up

Rubbing your bodies against each other while covered in soapsuds is somehow just as slippery and way less messy as pouring a whole bottle KY across your girl’s breasts and then awkwardly trying to do the human slip-n-slide. Now, I’m not telling you to end up swallowing a bottle’s worth of conditioner in the name of a convenient blowjob, but involving some suds in the pre-game rubdown never did hurt. Plus, with all that soap, fun additions like chocolate sauce just wash right away.

Stay Clean,

xox

Security Report: Oct. 14th through 20th

Thursday, October 14th

12:36 a.m. An officer on patrol in Hales Gym observed a lock and all hardware removed from a door that leads to the old pool area.  A check of the building was made and all other doors were found secure.

5:10 p.m. Staff requested an office at a Village House residence to pick up a hookah located in plain view during a Life Safety Inspection.  The hookah was removed by an unknown person prior to the officers’ arrival.

5:23 p.m. An officer was requested to assist an ill student in Price Hall.  The student was transported by ambulance to Mercy Allen Hospital for treatment.

4:24 p.m. A female student reported that while in the gender neutral bathroom on the second floor of Wilder Hall, she observed a mirror pointed up at her from the next stall.  A male subject fled the area upon being confronted.  A search of the area was made by officers with negative results locating the subject.

10:27 p.m. Staff reported an odor of burnt marijuana outside a first floor window at Barrows Hall.  Three students and a non-student were located and denied smoking marijuana.  A small multi-colored glass pipe, containing a small amount of a green leafy substance consistent with marijuana, was located in the bushes and one student claimed ownership of the pipe.  The pipe was confiscated and turned over to the Oberlin Police Department.  The non-student was placed on trespass notice.

11:59 p.m. An officer on patrol located a bb gun in an art studio on the north side of the Allen Art 37 edition.  The bb gun was transported to the Security Office and placed in property.

Friday, October 15th

1:39 a.m.  An officer was requested to assist with an intoxicated student at Harkness.  The student, who became ill from the alcohol consumption, was transported to Mercy Allen Hospital for treatment.

2:13 a.m. Officers responded to Saunders after receiving an alarm indicating a smoke detector head missing in a room on the second floor.  It appeared the detector was removed because the occupant was using a curling iron.

10:24 a.m. An officer met with trades personnel who report the theft of keys from his work truck while parked in Wilder Lot.  The keys were left unattended in the ignition for approximately 10 minutes.

2:10 p.m. An officer found a cloth money belt, containing cash, on the seat of a security vehicle.  The owner of the money belt was located and the item returned.

Saturday, October 16th

12:10 a.m. Staff at Wilder Hall reported a student had fallen in the Disco and hit her head.  Upon officer’s arrival at Wilder, they were advised the student left with a friend.  The student was located on the west side of the Science Center.  The student, who appeared intoxicated, refused medical treatment and advised she just wanted to go back to her room.  A transport was provided.

Sunday, October 17th

3:38 p.m. An officer on routine patrol found the glass in the southwest wing entrance door to South Hall broken.  A work order was filed for repair.

4:53 p.m. A resident of Johnson House reported a suspicious male outside of Johnson House asking about people who lived in the building.  The individual gave several names, none of whom lived in Johnson House.  As a result, the male individual was taken into custody by Oberlin Police Department and charged with Criminal Trespass.

4:54 p.m. A resident of Keep reported the theft of her laptop computer and purse from the lounge area in Keep.  The laptop is a MacBook Pro, silver in color with red case, valued at approximately $1000.00.  The purse is a small round leather purse, black in color and contained an iPod Touch, homework and wallet.  A report was also filed with the Oberlin Police.

7:45 p.m. A student reported the theft of his bicycle from the east side of the Allen Art Department.  The bicycle is a men’s Fuji, 12 speed, black and tan in color, rear rack and 700c wheels.  The bicycle was locked to itself at the time of theft.

Monday, October 18th

9:39 a.m. Officers were requested at the Conservatory to assist with a student having difficulty breathing.  The student was transported to Mercy Allen Medical Center for treatment.

10:13 a.m. Staff reported vandalism at the bandstand in Tappan Square.  A post was broken from the railing.  A work order was filed for repair.

2:25 p.m. Staff reported a minor motor vehicle accident in the east lot of the Service Building.  A vehicle backing from a parking space struck a truck parked in the fire lane.  No injuries; minor damage.  Oberlin Police Department also responded for a report.

Tuesday, October 19th

9:59 a.m. Staff reported vandalism in the faculty lounge at Rice Hall.  Items were emptied from the first aid kit and found on a counter, the accordion partition was pushed off track and a section of leaves were pulled from an artificial plant and placed on the head of a statue.

9:21 a.m. An officer was advised by custodial staff of vandalism/graffiti in Prall wing of South Hall.  Ceiling tiles were removed and/or destroyed, and “signatures” were written in wide black permanent marker on walls and on a bathroom mirror.  Work orders were filed for clean up/repairs.

Wednesday, October 20th

5:52 a.m. Officers and Oberlin Fire Department responded to a fire alarm at Stevenson Hall.  The cause of the alarm was steam from hot water running in the custodial closet.  Doors were propped open to dissipate the steam.  Alarm was reset.